Don brought a sense strength, confidence and calm during a scary and stressful time for our family. His guidance leading up to the intervention, during treatment and post-rehab was invaluable. Not only did he help point us in the right direction to help our family member, he became a resource for her as she transitioned back into her life of recovery.
As anyone who has a loved one in crisis knows - things happen for which nothing in life can prepare you. Thank goodness that one-day, Don was referred to us and we started talking. Within hours of making his acquaintance, a distressful situation unfolded. Don guided and counseled -and educated and informed us. Don orchestrated an intervention. For that alone, we are infinitely grateful. We truly could not have done it without him or, if we had, it would not have been successful. Don continues to help guide us in what will hopefully be a path to recovery. Don is a vital link - and currently acts as our much needed guide and coach.
What words can express the gratitude you have for someone who comes into your life and helps make sense of what you feel is the most helpless of situations that you could ever endure, the downward spiral of a loved one? Don was highly recommended, and came into our life bringing words of understanding first and foremost. He listened to us intently. He proceeded to educate us to understand the enemy that we were facing. He explained to us that this enemy was a disease, and not a personal choice by our loved one to fall into it’s grasp. He painted a picture of harsh reality, and of choices to be made by us, to save the life of the one we loved. He spoke of love and understanding. He showed us ways and provided tools to fight this enemy by explaining the way the enemy works. Don told us of some negative behavioral traits of our loved one that we had previously experienced, but had not yet told him prior to our meeting. Behaviors that only a professional of his caliber could possibly know. We saw the grip that it had, and were in great despair. We were mesmerized by his acute knowledge, and grasp on the situation. He explained it to us through the eyes of one who has faced a demon before, and had defeated it. Don molded us together as a dedicated team for one purpose, saving the life of our loved one. He gave us the hope that we desperately needed to confront this horrible demon. We were looking right at the bowels of hell, and yet with Don’s support we actually felt that all was not lost. He took control of the situation and guided our moves. He met with, and gained the trust of our loved one. He opened those eyes, for that monumental moment. And right then and there, opened the door to a bright future. There was a tough road ahead, but the path was set. A future of goodness, hope, self-preservation, family, and a wonderful addition to the world around them. Don Sloane, this stranger to us, has become one of the most beloved human beings to have ever touched our lives. He has a loving place in our hearts forever. When our family is together, his spirit resides with us. He has helped make our family whole again. He has brought back to life an incredible, talented person, who is a wonderful addition to society and the world around them. We are all forever grateful. Don has been a blessing to us. He embodies what is good with humanity.
Don Sloane has intellectualism tempered with spirituality, anchored by the grittiness and no-nonsense attitude necessary to capture the attention of a hard-core opiate addict like myself. The realities of addiction are well understood by him, which is expressed through his uncanny ability to empathize with the client and offer life-changing advice. The key to success with Mr. Sloane is a willingness to surrender, to be honest with yourself, and to follow directions. The best part of the client/counselor relationship is that Mr. Sloane has an indefatigable devotion to the client, plus, he's just a great guy to work with.
At a time when my family was in desperate need of direction, Don proved to be the perfect resource. He listened carefully to our story, helped us to weigh our options, and let us reach our own understanding of the importance of intervention without being pushy. This was an incredibly vulnerable moment for us, and Don’s sensitivity, experience, patience, and kindness led us to the actions that were needed, and ultimately to success.
Don Sloane was amazing in helping me understand and deal with an employee with an alcohol addiction. Watching him during the intervention, convince this very valued, but very ill employee, agree to go into rehab was amazing. I highly recommend Don for his valued expertise!
Working with Don Sloane was one of the most empowering experiences of my life. He helped guide me through the intervention process in a comforting and reassuring way. Don was mindful and strategic about sharing with me appropriate information, guidance, and examples from his experience. He quickly won the confidence of all involved with my family's intervention, including those from diverse backgrounds and varying levels of exposure to addition. I'd been in a fog, dealing with my loved one's addiction and Don brought a much-needed calmness. Through Don I know how to live better, for a healthy tomorrow.
Our son’s life was wreck and so was ours, and then me met Don. Don helped us understand addiction and the intervention process. He spent five long, difficult hours before driving our son to get the help he needed. Later, when we had questions, he was there to answer them. Things are looking up, and Don played a big role in this turnaround.
When we were totally confused and scared; we didn't want to unnecessarily stigmatize our son by raising our concerns to people we knew, so we called a few rehabs. We learned from the rehabs that the addict should be willing to come to treatment on their own. We were pretty sure our son would not willingly go to a rehab, because he wouldn't admit he had a problem. Our son was addicted to Oxycontin primarily, but also to the drug wheeling/dealing lifestyle of crime, drug parties, and disrespect for our family, society and the law. We knew we needed help and answers and Don provided both. Don is a straight shooter but with the utmost respect and compassion for what our family was going through. His patience with our confusion and our martial stress was really over the top. We came to believe (and still do) that Don was the only person in our location who knew what he was talking about. Amazingly, with the level of addiction in our area, no one seems to have a clue what to do. Don's approach worked for our family and our son. It was a rollercoaster time because our son would not admit he had a problem and, initially, did not agree to go to rehab with Don. As devastated as we were, Don stood by us, even as our son physically attacked him. He counseled us through a series of dark days when we had lost hope, but Don never lost hope. We hung onto Don like he was our life raft and we were lost at sea. To our amazement, our son agreed to go to rehab a few days after the intervention. From that point on, Don remained available to us. You think you have solved the problem when the kid goes to rehab, but that is just the beginning. We continued to call on Don to bounce aftercare ideas and options off him. He stayed connected to our son who felt terrible that he had assaulted Don. Our son still can't believe all that happened in his life. Almost two years later, he is clean and back in college. It is not all smooth sailing, but Don taught us to hang in there, not to give up hope and to keep compassion for the addict. From our initial contact with Don we started to feel supported and to feel we were getting accurate and thoughtful advice. Throughout this time we may have felt stressed and overwhelmed; I continue to be fearful and worry about my son, but we know there is someone close by we can call who is knowledgeable and will give us the straight story. I can honestly say that without Don I do not think we our son would be both clean and back in college almost two years down the road.
In high school, our son was a socially awkward young person who seemingly was not influenced by peer pressure to experiment with drugs and alcohol. The summer after graduation, he detached from the family. It was as if he simply disappeared and I kept saying, where is my son, I want my son back! We began to find evidence of drug use everywhere, but we could not believe that our son was seriously abusing drugs. He lasted 6 weeks at college and came home. His drug use continued to increase and he began selling to support his drug habit. Months later, we visited his sister at college for family weekend & he was arrested for possession of marijuana just 30 minutes after we dropped him off at her dorm. You would think that would have been his wakeup call, but his drug use grew worse. We knew he was in serious trouble when we found cocaine in the basement but we had no idea what to do. He was unwilling to admit that he had a problem, counseling wasn’t working and the family situation had become totally unmanageable. So when someone gave us Don’s name, in desperation, we called him at 10 pm and were relieved when he answered the phone. He was so kind, he talked to us well over an hour about our son’s drug issues without regard to us contracting him for his time. With Don’s guidance, we quickly planned and scheduled an intervention for the following week at our house. It lasted well over 2 ½ hours until our son agreed to get into the car & go to the rehabilitation center. I simply cannot imagine our lives had we not called Don. Even today, we call him our “Crisis Angel”. Our son is currently sober. He’s had a number of relapses but he’s learning what he has to do to stay sober. We’ve learned about the disease of addiction and how to be “Tough Love” parents. The family situation has much improved and our son is back in counseling and making plans to return to college.
My name is Tom W. and I am an alcoholic. It took me a long time to come to grips with that. But today, I am living a life I never thought was possible, a life free from alcohol. I could not imagine life without alcohol. How was I going to be able to enjoy anything in life i.e. sporting events, house parties, holidays etc. without alcohol? Today, after 16 months in recovery I can say I’ve done all of those things and ENJOYED them more than I ever did in the fog of alcohol. When I left the Caron treatment center it was suggested that I contact Don Sloane for help in my aftercare. I found Don to be humble, knowledgeable, strong and firm in his guidance. He came with a strong record of recovery himself, which proved to me that it could work, if you want it and are willing to go to any lengths for it by following his simple instructions on a daily basis, I found the transition back to everyday life to be much easier. Don served as the bridge between Caron and AA. He helped guide me in how to find a sponsor, how to get started working the 12 steps, and what to look for in an AA home group. I would recommend Don’s services to anyone looking to break free from the chains of alcohol abuse. As I found out, life is pretty good on the other side of the fence.
Don is a wonderful partner to have at your side as you begin the new journey of living sober. He has a vast wealth of knowledge of the tools we need to survive both from his own journey in sobriety and from working with others. Don is there when you need him.
I am honored to share my personal experience with Don Sloane. As a physician, I was considered a “high relapse risk” when leaving the Caron Rehabilitation Center. I was encouraged to consider working with Don as a Recovery Care Partner when I was being discharged from the facility. As I approach my 18th month of sobriety, there is honestly no one person I can hold in more gratitude than Don Sloane. Absolutely, my husband has been amazing as have family and friends during these early months of recovery with Alcoholism. It is just that Don completely gets me. One of the most genuinely fatal aspects of being an addict of any type is the feeling that “no one understands me” and the feeling that “I must figure it out and do it myself”. I am convinced that these thoughts could have led to relapse for me, IF I were not working with Don Sloane. Every day that Don and I spoke, which was daily for many months, I knew that I was not just heard, but understood. Don is not just compassionate; he hears your heart talking even when you don’t. He can sift through the madness and restore sanity to every moment. This was essential for this alcoholic, because it was my utter despair and confusion during early recovery that would have brought me “back out” and relapsing back into the bottle. But, Don was there. ALWAYS. If there are 3 things I can recommend to anyone in early recovery with addiction it would be: Go to daily 12 STEP meetings, work with Don Sloane and find a sponsor. I was able to work with Don for months while I deliberated my sponsor choice. It is very hard for many of us to pick a sponsor. Feeling unsafe is very common in early sobriety and this makes the vulnerability of picking and talking to a sponsor hard for many. Don provides immediate relief from that trauma and supports you as you embark on your recovery. He is priceless and a total gift from God. Thank you Don.
Last year our family was devastated when our son told us he was an alcoholic and needed help. He completed a month long rehab session at a well know clinic. When he returned home things were very stressful. The rehab facility suggested we might engage a recovery coach when our son got home. They gave us Don Sloane’s name and we contacted him. His response was immediate. My husband and I needed Don as much as our son did because we were so emotionally involved it was hard to know the right way to proceed. Don began meeting with our son regularly as well as having periodic family sessions. He always returned our calls and answered our questions. His advice was based on years of experience and education. He held our son accountable for what he said he was doing and he also helped him to organize a life that had been “winging it” for a long time. All the hard work, motivation, and good intentions would not have been enough without the innovations from Don. We feel he was the key to success, not only for our son, but also for us. Over time our son became calmer, more committed to sobriety, and displayed an inner confidence. Don began to reduce his oversight and allow our son more independence. After several months we had a final meeting with Don and our son and it was decided that it was clear our son was ready to take control. However, Don told all of us that he would always be a phone call away if we felt we needed to talk. Don was a major part of our son recently being able to celebrate his one-year of sobriety, and return to a normal life. We will be forever grateful to Don for his wisdom and guidance. He is truly a skilled professional.
My name is Tom W. and I am an alcoholic. It took me a long time to come to grips with that. But today, I am living a life I never thought was possible; a life, free from alcohol. I could not imagine life without alcohol. How was I going to be able to enjoy anything in life i.e. sporting events, house parties, holidays etc. without alcohol? Today, after 16 months in recovery I can say I’ve done all of those things and ENJOYED them more than I ever did in the fog of alcohol. When I left the Caron treatment center it was suggested that I contact Don Sloane for help in my aftercare. I found Don to be humble, knowledgeable, strong and firm in his guidance. He came with a strong record of recovery himself, which proved to me that it could work, if you want it and are willing to go to any lengths for it. By following his simple instructions on a daily basis, I found the transition back to everyday life to be much easier. Don served as the bridge between Caron and AA. He helped guide me in how to find a sponsor, how to get started working the 12 steps, and what to look for in an AA home group. I would recommend Don’s services to anyone looking to break free from the chains of alcohol abuse. As I found out, life is pretty good on the other side of the fence
My family and I have had the great good fortune to have met Don Sloane thru his work at the CARON Facility located in Wernersville, Pa. My son was struggling with an addiction problem, and it was at the official "discharge" meeting with the CARON counselors, that Don and I had our first conversation. I immediately knew that Don was, and would CONTINUE TO BE our best resource in the fight against this terrible disease. My wife and I, like many people had a lot of preconceptions, misinformation, and FEARS regarding substance abuse. We had no earthly idea what to "DO" do for our son, especially now that he was "finished his treatment at CARON. Little did we know that the hard work was about to begin. It soon became evident that our son, was continuing to "use", and had looked upon his CARON experience as simply a way to get the family " off of his back." His marriage was falling apart; he was belligerent, secretive and resentful towards every member of his family, especially his Mom, Dad, brother, and wife. He would not go to meetings and was getting worse. He saw his drug abuse as our problem, not his. Here’s where Don's guidance was invaluable. As parents, we had continued to issue empty threats, again and again to our son regarding the "consequences" of his continued drug use. I was going to take away his cash. I never did. I was going to take his car. I never did. I was going to throw him out of our family business. I never did. It was Don who pointed out to ME especially, that what I had been doing was not and NEVER would be effective. It was time to draw a line in the sand. So, with Don's patient leadership, we confronted our son. Don made the reservation at HAZELDON, and the airline tickets were in hand. Don and I finally sat down and confronted my son with the reality of what was actually happening. No more empty threats. He was getting on the plane. Period. He started to cry and finally "got" that we were no longer bluffing. I was a wreck that day, but Don sat by my side, and reassured me that I was doing what needed to be done. We ended up with a compromise arrangement, (outpatient rehab), which I am pleased to say is still working. My son is presently not using, and our hope is that he will stay that way. (At the same time, I realize that this may be a temporary victory) I take great comfort in the knowledge that Don Sloane will always be there, if and when the time arises, and our family requires his guidance and advice. I consider Don Sloane to be both my friend, and a family friend. He has demonstrated sensitivity and perception when it came to analyzing complicated family relationships. Father-son conflicts, sibling rivalries, marriage counseling.... We threw it all at Don... And he navigated through the conflicts effortlessly. He taught our family how to better communicate with each other... (Still a work in progress…). But make no mistake. Your addict may first confuse Don's sensitivity with weakness. He will soon learn that Don can be tough and unyielding when the situation calls for it. As a Dad, I know now that I was weak, and kept making excuses for my son’s behavior. Thanks to Don, I found the courage to do what had to be done. As a loved one of a substance abuser, it is so easy to keep on minimizing the extent of their addiction. It isn’t that bad, you say. Its only pot... It’s only a couple of drinks.... A million and one excuses... Don has educated our entire family regarding substance abuse. We now know it is a lifelong disease, waiting to show itself again. My advice to you is the following. Call Don Sloane. Keep his number handy. He will prove invaluable in helping you and your loved ones devise a strategy and stick to the plan. Your resolve may waiver, but Don will keep you strong. Your addict may not like everything Don will tell him/her, but they WILL respect him. He will see through your addicts "bullshit". (Pardon the language) And even more importantly, Don will guide YOU through what will most certainly become the most terrifying experience of your life; watching your loved one slowly kill himself with drugs or alcohol. Keep Don's phone number handy. You will need it more than this one time. Addiction is a lifelong disease, and almost always comes back. And be thankful that you found Don Sloane.
I have greatly enjoyed working with Don. He is committed to helping others reach their goals, is dedicated and available to his clients and has a sincere enthusiasm for connecting in a loving and meaningful manner. I feel that my clients are in the best of hands whenever I have referred to him.
While working with Don, I have always felt his level of investment and passion for helping the sick and suffering addict. His continued involvement, throughout a patient’s treatment process, has given support and comfort to all families he has worked with. Don is available to speak to families, clients and treatment staff at any time, and is always focused on what is in the best interest of the client and their family. I have worked with Don on a number of very complicated cases and have always valued his insight and opinion on the direction of each treatment process. Knowing and understanding the fears and concerns of those entering into treatment, Don has been a source of reassurance by offering support and guidance for all involved. It has been a pleasure and an honor working with Don Sloane and have all of the respect in the world for what he does.
I have known Don Sloane for many years as both a friend and a Colleague. He is dedicated to helping people in recovery, their families, others affected by addiction and related problems. He is committed to helping people achieve long-term recovery and has helped many people who have sought his assistance. He is a good man to know when addiction knocks at your door or the door of those you love or care about.
Solid, dependable, caring. Honest and kind. Takes a sound clinical approach and follows through. Knows addiction and knows what is involved in recovery. Simply the best help of this kind available.
When I have needed intervention assistance in years past for a client, I wanted that help to come in an experienced and professional package. I wanted that help to come with gentleness, compassion and the understanding of just what my client and his or her family were up against. I wanted that help to come with the willingness to go the extra mile in treating everyone with warm respect while offering a firm hand leading to much needed treatment. I wanted that help to come from someone who had managed this process a lot. Don Sloane has never failed...every time...everywhere. In the confusion of desperate and fearful times, I will always call on Don Sloane - a true caring professional!
Over the past several years, I have worked with Don Sloane and the many patients and families he has sent to Caron. Don is tireless in his advocacy for strong patient care and he spends many hours behind the scenes with the family…. both prior to the intervention, while the patient is in treatment, and long after the patient is discharged. He understands that intervention is a process and not a singular event. He knows that the critical moments for family recovery need to be addressed on an ongoing basis, often long after a patient enters treatment. Don’s commitment to intervention as a process and his long-term involvement with the family throughout this process are what make him a difference maker in the lives of so many.